Creating a cohesive home means that those living in the home are on the same page for all things design. Just as we shouldn't stereotype, we shouldn't assume that there are particular design elements tied to certain genders. What we are getting to is this. A marriage of his and her styles should be a medley of each individual's design needs, wants, and styles alike. It's respecting each other's interior needs so both parties are satisfied. It's about gender neutrality in design.
Sure, there may be certain colours, textures, materials, and even layouts that each may prefer over the other, but that doesn't mean that there is a distinct difference that separates his and her's styles. This also doesn't mean that you need to separate or sacrifice the needs of one over the other. Remove the common design associations attached to what "his" or "her's" is supposed to look like, and instead create a space that signifies each of you as individuals who share the same space. That being said, I know, it may sound easier said than done, but with the help of our tips and tricks, it can be done.
Why it's Important to Have Both
Neutral Master Ensuite that embraces a calm contrasting colour pallet
by Reena Sotropa In House Design Group
So when you hear the word masculine or feminine, it doesn't mean that certain traits are only for one or the other. Instead, we think of it as traits that are associated with each other to help blend both partner's styles. We're talking about design elements such as materials, form, and patterns. While a masculine style tends to often lean towards dark colours, bolder, or rough unfinished textures; a feminine style usually learns towards brighter and elegant designs, organic shapes, and light colours textures.
No matter the difference, it's so important to create a home that is tailored to both styles because the home is where we spend a majority of our time in. It's not just about aesthetics, but about proper space planning, functionality, efficiency, and incorporating each other's unique needs. It's about finding a balance. It's about having both sides happy without sacrificing the needs of the other.
A functional 'his' and 'hers' home office I White Dahlia Design
His and Hers Customization
His and Her's vanity I White Dahlia Design
Have you ever hear the phrase, "happy wife, happy life?". Yes, it's a pretty common phrase repeated especially when it comes to design projects. While this section isn't so much about how to keep your wife happy perse, it's about design personalization to keep each other happy. Personalization in design to accommodate each other's needs for efficiency for every day. One great way to achieve this is to have individual sinks to maintain a shared space.
I know I know, we know not everyone has the luxury of a large master suite but you can still personalize the space to have incorporated each other's styles and needs. Instead of having individual sinks in a washroom, for example, try to mix different finishes instead. Head to your local supplier for finishes and each pick out what speaks to you. From there, narrow it down. A beautiful design mix! It's not only a fun exercise but trust us, you'd be pleasantly shocked at the beautiful contrast you've created together.
Masculine and Feminine Finishes I Jamie Banfield
The 80-20 Rule of Design
In other cases, you may find that you and your partner both have different tastes and interior design styles. So how are you supposed to create one cohesive design you ask? Well, we've said this before, that design should be fun and unique to every individual. However, if you find that you and your partner seem to have complete opposites for design aesthetics, follow this recipe. In the design world, it's referred to as the 80-20 rule.
“As long as 80% of your interior is unified by the same style, period, or philosophy, you can deviate with the other 20% (Source: American Institute of Interior Design).” So in other words, if you're struggling, start off with one style out of the two that's easiest to work with and follow through with the remaining 20% by adding accents from the other. Not sure what Interior Design style you or your partner lean more towards? We've got you covered with our style quiz.
Lastly, don't be afraid to break some rules. You don't need to be spot on! Besides, it's elements that are interesting and unique that make a room or design stand-out right? Or as we would like to say, great design is a design that tells a story.
The 80-20 Rule Guideline
- 80% one style, 20% another style to accent
- Apply the 80-20 rule for guidance on finishes (paints, wall coverings, tiles)
- Don't be afraid to break rules to create a space that is unique and a true reflection of you as a couple
Your home should be a happy place, and whether it's a shared space between you and your significant other you shouldn't feel restricted in design styles. Mixing each other's styles sounds like it could be a design mess, but know that if done so thoughtfully you can end up with a space that speaks true to the both of you. Mixing styles can enhance your original design to a stunning masterpiece that you can both be proud of. Make sure to communicate what you both want and need, and also don't forget that we are only a click or phone call away for extra guidance.
A masculine and feminine modern farmhouse following the 80-20 rule I Decorist